"Looking back in"
Good evening everyone
Today I was thinking about what it means to be on the outside looking in. I've recently met a young lady in Foster Care and for some odd odd reason. I expected to sit down and to be able to really talk with her about who she was what she felt and what it is like for her in Foster Care. (That assumption I am sure was out of pure excitement on my end. However but wasn't thought through at all very well).
Honestly:
After meeting the young lady and having dinner. I was kind of disappointed that was Monday and this morning I thought to myself literally (Devitta she doesn't know you and even though you know your intentions she doesn't).
I thought back when I went into Foster Care and even when I was first removed from my adopted family. It was no easy transition and I was far from open. I wasn't sure who to trust and even who I could talk to. Nor was I sure how I would be treated. I wasn't sure what to expect from anyone at that point. So how could I expect that of anyone else?
I was amazed at how I didn't consider the circumstance of how she may feel or may not feel from the beginning rather than after.
Either Way:
I am glad that I had the experience
I now have a thought to take with me the next time that get the opportunity to meet a young individual in care I must be mindful and thank things through a little more.
Feel free to leave feedback both constructive criticism as well as encouragement.
Yes, we former fosters have had many more years on our journey of healing, and must remember how we used to be when we first entered care - scared, not sure who to trust, possible low self-esteem if previously abused, etc. We must always let them guide the way when trying to communicate with them. Honestly, they may be looking for someone to trust, but can and will probably test you to see if you will abandon them like others have in their lives. Be prepared for pretty much anything, but do all you do with love and compassion.
ReplyDeleteThat was one the other thing she that I recognized that we are all at a different point in our journey. Your right allowing them to guide the way will give them the security that they will need. I agree I may be tested to see if I will abandon her or be in for the long haul. Thanks so much 😘
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