Mom? Dad? Grandma? Grandad? 

As a child I had no idea of the true definition of these words and roles meant. 

(I had a two people that played the role of a mother and father, keyword #Played) They didn't know what they were doing. (Nicley put)

Now as an adult and mother

I don't want that for either of my children. Kylah and Kahlen both deserve to know their mommy, daddy and family. Who we are? What we do? And most importantly know how much we love them. 

Right now my daughter is in a place where she is asking.

Who is Mom? Right now my daughter does not know who here mother is. She is struggling greatly. (I gave custody to a lady who was supposed to be helping me and my daughter. She allowed us to move in and wanted to file for custody of Kylah. I thought she was filing for me. When she had me sign the paperwork she had her name in the spot to receive custody. I didn't say anything, I didn't want to make her upset.  

When we went to court for the hearing that morning she knew i didn't want to give her custody. So she she said Kylah and myself had 30 days to be out of her home. I had no where to go so I gave in. 

Soon after I left for Jobcorp not knowing that would pretty much be the end of my relationship for two years with my daughter.)

With an amzing team and lawyer we are having regular visitation.  Yet she s doesn't understand who I am . Refusing to explain who I am to my daugther, Ashley(her guardian), has her call me Ms. Devitta, which is dead wrong. Kylah has told me that there is a guy their that she calls dad, who really isn't her father.

So again

Who is Mom? Who is Dad?

..........

We have a long road ahead of us, but as time goes on she will know my role in her life. More importantly that I love her and that I fought for her.

She will know her Mom is

Gratefully I have adoption and foster care to thank for that.
Its helped me want more for my children. It has shown me how critical it is to support, love, encourage, and fight for my children.

It is so important that while we educate our children on the meaning of family while it can be both biological and nonbiological that they also are aware and know

I think sometimes people don't know from experience what it means to be in a place where you don't know mom and dad.